Please RSVP!

I think I'd probably have called round a few people to get an answer, and guilt-tripped them a bit at the same time. But it is definitely bad manners not to even bother responding either way - make it as easy as possible for people to get in touch though, and I think these days that should probably include putting an email address.

I'd have been seriously upset in your position I have to say!

Kerri.

When DH and I were planning our wedding (13 years ago), I was in charge of ordering invitations (well, and everything else. All dh had to do was show up). Anyway, I was telling my MIL how many invitations and RSVP cards I was getting and she told me not to bother with the RSVP cards for their side of the family, no one will bother sending them back. I don't know if it is maybe a southwestern thing or what. Everyone on my side of the family returned theirs (back east and a few up north). But with DH's family, we just guessed at who all would be there.

But I always try to RSVP. It's just rude not to!

My MOMs club has taken to using e-vites, and I know Creative Memories has its own e-vites you can use. It does help if people can RSVP at 6 am or 11 pm, if that's when they finally have the change.

But, that's no excuse not to RSVP. I know, people are just awful about it, and shockingly unapologetic. I've had many people tell me that they won't know whether they can come to something until the last minute -- now I'm sure that in some cases this is true, but really, how often? And then there is the person who didn't bother showing up, but would have, "if I'd known it was just a small party" instead of a big open house. Eh?

Manners -- don't get me started! I'm still waiting to be invited to do something -- anything! -- with one of the dozens of people we've had for dinner, brunch, etc. over the last few years. Hello, it's called reciprocating, being sociable!

Shaun
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Yup Shaun, that's what it boils down to. I am super guilty of letting things slide now and then. In fact just yesterday there was a message on my cell phone from a mom in DS's class. She was calling to verify my address so she could mail us a b-day invite. And I haven't called her back yet. I'm just as rude as the next. But it felt good to vent the day I was frustrated.

I did have one mom who RSVP'd the morning of. Asked if her son could ride with us to the party place (rock climbing gym) then never showed up at appointed hour to drop him off! DH waited 15 minutes for them. Never called to say why. I might think a terrible accident happened if I wasn't experienced already with this mom.

Sheesh! MANNERS! Now I think I'll go call the address seeker back. (Although I do think that is strange, she got my number out of the school directory where my address is also printed.)