Venting
I can hardly believe it, it's making me crazy--DH totally butchered my X spindle today and I can't figure what the hell he thought he was doing.
I usually sing his praises as Mr. Fixit but he fell off his pedestal big time on this one. I've never been able to spin this spindle so that it doesn't wobble crazily. I figured it was because the makers for some unGodly reason glued the spindle rest onto the shaft. I had DH cut it off, no problems there, but it was still spinning caddywumpus. DH pointed out that the X's weren't the exact same length, it looks like the manufacturer drilled the hole just barely off center.
So he said he would trim the ends so they were the same length. And he butchered it. The ends are dog-eared and one one of the ends he recut the dog ear wildly crooked. It looks so ugly, I'm so upset that I've been crying ever since.
I can't stand what he's done to my spindle. It may seem ridiculous to anyone but me but I'm beside myself. I trusted him to trim my spindle and he ruined it. This is sooooo not like him. He's usually ridiculously careful and meticulous when he's making or repairing things, will go out of his way to make jigs and things so that everything is straight and true. This looks so half assed. I'm right pissed.
I want to kick something.
I can't even talk to him about it right now I'm so angry.
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Sorry about the bad words
I normally try very hard to use clean or at least clean-er language here. I reread the post and am a little shocked that I used curse words, I didn't even realize I was doing it. I so should NOT post when I'm angry. Apologies if the $%&* words offended.
Anhata
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I'm sorry about your spindle!!!
I gotta say now, my curiosity is piqued. Please tell us when you find out what, in fact, he thought he was doing!
oh dear
You want I should make you a wonderful CD spindle?
I know how much you loved that spindle even though you couldn't quite get it to "go" the way you wanted to.
Lynn Siprelle, Editor
if it would be helpful
bring it on over. I can probably fix it.
I know your DH well, and highly respect his work, but sometimes an extra pair of eyes (and hands) works wonders.
a thought
OK, feel free to ignore me or tell me to mind my own business, but ... are you sure this is really about a spindle? I know you've been under a lot of pressure what with the transition from SAHM to WOHM and from homeschooling to outside schooling. Do you think maybe, just maybe a little of this was just the proverbial straw that broke the camel's back? That maybe there's a little, possibly subconcious, resentment toward DH over these changes and his less than perfect work on your favorite spindle made it bubble up a bit? Just a thought.
Backing away slowly....
Angel
Good luck Anhata! I could
Good luck Anhata! I could tell you were majorly $%#^$@ from your first post - unlike you!
isn't this place wonderful though!
yes a little venting gets us more wound up for a little while, but I still firmly believe it helps in the long run, and it is so much better to vent here than let DH have te first draft of how you felt!!
hope he has more luck with the 2nd round of repairs Anhata. And look at it this way - if he's so good normally that this came as such a shock, then you have a lot to be thankful for. When you've got past the urge to hit him with what's left!
very brave of you Angel, but it usually is something else that sets off a reaction that is completely out of proportion or out of character like this, although if DH asks me considerately again whether I have PMS I may just come over to get Anhata's spindly thingy to use as a weapon!!!
Kerri.
Oh, this is soooo not just about the spindle!
It is about my REACTION to the spindle!
I must admit I am stressed about not having found a job yet and somehow last week I was too busy to do any additional job hunting but I couldn't tell you if my life depended on it what I was too busy with...
I was also very stressed yesterday already because I couldn't find DD after church service--she'd wandered outside and was playing in the cold rain, by herself, with no coat on. I looked for her everywhere including outside for almost five minutes and couldn't find her. I was well and truly starting to panic when someone else found her and sent her in.
Add to that that I'm coming down with a sore throat and started feeling the ickies yesterday.
So there's the context for me already being a bit emotionally on the edge when this happened. After I calmed down last night I told DH how much this upset me and that I felt like it was a mark of thoughtlessness or carelessness for my things that he mauled it so completely.
There are things underneath my reaction that are hard for me to look at, but I think in the end it comes down to a breakdown in communication between DH and me on many levels that has been the only real problem that our relationship has ever had and it crops up from time to time.
DH still has no good explaination of why he cut the dog ear so badly but he has offered to try to fix it (thanks for the offer, JJ). I'm going to be very v e r y v e r y specific about what I want it to look like when he's done.
Anhata
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