Events that happened yesterday have bothered me. And I have to deal with it. Not sure if I'm asking for advice from this board, but wondered about different views of how to handle this. A different perspective, I guess.

Both of my girls are playing soccer this year. They are on different teams. The younger girl has a great coach (he is a senior at our small rural school, I know him. He is black and is great with children), and she has a great team, a mix of hispanic and white kids, but it doesn't matter about race because they are a great team together.

My other daughter's team is another story. We were at the soccer fields yesterday. DD7's team was already playing, but DD9's team were just arriving and warming up. DD9 came up to me in tears.

She was the only girl on her team to arrive, and the only white kid on her team. All the hispanic boys were shoving her around and saying crude remarks about her whiteness (things like "your so white, we can't see you in the sun" and some other remarks). DD9 gets along great with kids in our school, no matter what race (which is pretty much hispanic and white). None of the kids on her team are from our school, they are all from town. Up til now, all the teams she has been on for baseball and cheerleading have been made up of our school's kids. Now she is thrown in with town kids and I'm not impressed.

I told her to tell her coach. DD9 said she did and the coach told the boys to stop, but nothing happened. I was busy between the baby, DS4 (who was being a turd) and DD7's game and couldn't leave. So I told her to just stand by the coach. And then they left her alone.

Any ideas of what to do? I think I should talk to the coach myself and take care of things. Not only should they not have said it to anyone, but especially not your team mate. I'm beyond pissed. I haven't told DH because he would probably jerk her off the team. I don't know what the coach will say, she is hispanic, too. I don't know if there will be no sympathy whatsoever because of this, or if she will actually do something about it. Am I going to be looked at as the "white kids mom" who has a problem. Will she be teased more if I get involved?

It is a race thing. They weren't teasing her for being a girl, or being blond, or being tall, or being uncoordinated (she is all of the above). It was for being white.

Any thoughts?