Thought of Lynn.

Submitted by Jana on Thu, 08/17/2006 - 8:23pm

Two weeks ago a very close friend died of a massive heart attack. DH and I grew up with he and his wife. We have grown closer since starting families. He was 34 years old. No known heart issues. Spent the day building a tree house for his two boys ages 9 and 6. Was cooking dinner with his wife. Died on the floor before the ambulance arrived.

The last two weeks have been very difficult for my family so I can only multiply that by a million for my friend. DH and I have had so many conversation about life and family and what is important. About what we want if one of us passes and about what our future holds. What we want to spend time on. And what we don't want to waste time on. It has really brought our whole day to day down to just a few small things. Not much matters but your family. The boys have asked some tough questions. Some we can not answer and some that we can only hope don't happen.

When I see my friend she is sad down to her bones. There is not other way for me to describe it. I have not seen her smile in almost 3 weeks. The life in her eyes is gone. It is pain that no one can ease or really even help with. I have dealt with alot of death in the last several years. This has been the hardest.

Please kiss your family. Please forget all the grand plans and just enjoy the simple things. Please take precautions so that if something did happen your family would be taken care of.

And please say a prayer for my friend.

Jana

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Send her my love

Submitted by Lynn on Thu, 08/17/2006 - 8:47pm.

I'll be thinking of her.

Lynn Siprelle, Editor

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shock multiplies pain

Submitted by Kerri on Fri, 08/18/2006 - 6:50am.

or so it seems, when something comes like this out of the blue.

hugs and the passing of time for your friend, because those help more than anything, and the love of good friends.

take care of yourselves too.

Kerri.

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Thoughts

Submitted by Honey on Fri, 08/18/2006 - 10:05am.

Thinking of your friend and her boys, and you too.

Love, Honey xx

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Prayers for all

Submitted by lgunnoe on Fri, 08/18/2006 - 1:29pm.

How very sad.

Blessings,
Lenora

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I'm sorry about your friends!

Submitted by Becky on Fri, 08/18/2006 - 6:38pm.

That is so hard.

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Deepest sympathy

Submitted by Anhata on Mon, 08/21/2006 - 4:26pm.

I'm so sorry to hear of the loss of your very dear friend. Losing someone out of the blue like that...it's a completely different kind of pain.

I know the look you spoke of--when I was a teenager someone in our community was accidentally killed on the job and his wife wore a similar expression for weeks afterwards, a masque of grief.

You're right, every moment with our families is precious. Everyday I look at my family and take a little snapshot with my mind's eye. Because my father died before I was born, I've always known there are no guarantees--anyone I know or love may not be here tomorrow. Growing up, my friends who'd never experienced the loss of a close family member thought I was morbid, but I don't think I was, I simply knew that tradgedy strikes whereever it will. It's no comfort to say that, or hear it, comfort can only be found with time, if at all.

Prayers for all.

Anhata
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