I don't even know how to explain the things my sister has said and emailed to me since I became pregnant, because they are so incoherent. I can't even see where she is coming from. Anyway, as best as I can express the phone call where I told her I was pregnant, she seems to think that DH and I are going to be unfit parents. So I said that if CPS takes the baby away (a ridiculous idea, there is no reason they would do that of course), I will recommend her to take custody. But she said "no, that's not what I meant." She kept saying she is "worried" about us, and said we had to take parenting classes because she didn't think we understood how much work it would be to take care of an infant (she has no children either, and has babysat more than I have but certainly I have taken care of babies many times and spent plenty of time with friends and their babies). I asked if she meant like the baby care classes at the hospital, but she said no. Earlier this year, she wanted me to go through Applied Behavioral Analysis to improve my life skills (I am not autistic and have no tendencies in that direction, other than being a Ph.D student!), and I did not do that; she wants me to do some equivalent. The most concrete reasons she can come up with for thinking there is some sort of problem are that our apartment is too messy and one of our two cats is obese.

Finally at the end of this phone call, I was getting fed up with the gibberish and said, "look, send me an email with a list of the life skills you think I need." So today she sent me an email saying that she wants me and DH to use the following "parent aide" program: http://www.downeyfamilysupport.com/services.htm [1] which is for "families which are under stress as well as those at risk for abuse or neglect." It doesn't make any sense. Obviously we are not at risk for abuse or neglect, and while we have stress in our lives it's not any more than anyone else has. She knows all that. I don't even know what to say to her because I can't understand what she is saying. Anyone have any ideas, on either count?