13 years of matrimonial bliss, well, mostly

Anhata's picture
Submitted by Anhata on Fri, 03/17/2006 - 12:02am.

DH and I celebrated thirteen years of marriage on Monday, a fact that I nearly forgot this year...remembered on Sunday that the next day was our anniversary. DH had forgotten too. At least we both forgot, usually it's stereotypically DH that forgets even though I remind him several times well in advance of an important BDay or something.

We were married at the tender age of 20 and 21, still in college, living in a tiny two-room-and-a-bath apartment right next to the train tracks, our furniture was a joke, and we were happy as clams.

We were married at The Mansion at Elfindale and honeymooned at The Crescent Hotel in Eureka Springs, Arkansas, a town we loved so much we kept going back for Valentine's Days and Anniversaries.

You know, I just realized Eureka Springs is one of the things I really miss. It's a crazy mix of the remnants of a Victorian health resort, tourist trap, fantastically talented artists and jewelers, New Age mumbo jumbo, and European style architectural charm. Souvenier shops with country victorian doo dads crammed next to amazing art galleries crammed next to weird new age stores. My favorite What-The-#$%% moment was stumbling into a Lesbian New Age Head Shop. That was a trip.

The wedding ceremony was kinda cool, I wrote our vows, threw in the 1 Corinthian 13 chapter, and had Elizabeth Barret Browning's "How Do I Love Thee" read by our attendants. The trombone player from the now defunct River Rats Dixieland Jazz Band officiated (a friend and collegue of my stepfather), and my in laws didn't mingle and hardly said two words to me. They didn't want us married up. I'm not sorry to have dissapointed them that the marriage actually does work and that they were wrong. I can't help but gloat a little there, yes, I'm that petty.

I made the wedding invitations myself, my mother made my wedding dress and my bridesmaid's dress (yup, I picked an ugly BM dress, sorry, Allie), I made all the flower arrangements that we wore, including a headband of cream silk roses in my hair. Sigh.

One of the happiest days of my life, second only to the day I birthed my DD.

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Kerri's picture

That's nice

Submitted by Kerri on Sat, 03/18/2006 - 2:41pm.

thanks for sharing that Anhata - makes me smile to see how others started up. It also makes you the same age as me pretty nearly - I'm 33 later this year.

we haven't got to our honeymoon yet and we just passed our 10th anniversary!! We have 4 days without the kids at Easter though, so I think that will have to be it. It will be our first trip away on our own since before we left for Singapore in October 1995!!

Here's to the next 13yrs Anhata - as fun as the last! Smiling

Kerri.

Becky's picture

Happy anniversary!

Submitted by Becky on Sat, 03/18/2006 - 2:56pm.

Glad you and your DH eventually remembered!

jennye's picture

Congratulations!! My DH and

Submitted by jennye on Sat, 03/18/2006 - 4:59pm.

Congratulations!!

My DH and I were the same age as ya'll when we married. 11 years now, still going strong! Ain't it nice to prove them all wrong!? LOL!

Marlene's picture

Happy Anniversary!

Submitted by Marlene on Sat, 03/18/2006 - 5:26pm.

I love a happy marriage story, when most people I know that are married, basically are just roommates. My mother in law didn't want us married either.....and July 6, we will be celebrating 21 years! hahahahahahaha! Ahem, ok I am that petty too! Plus, all of our friends who married after us, are now divorced, guess we are not the norm? LOL!
Have a great one!

Andrea's picture

neat

Submitted by Andrea on Sat, 03/18/2006 - 5:42pm.

Thanks for sharing Anhata! I checked out your links - neat! Here's to many more years of happiness for you and your DH -

Andrea

Jilsyt's picture

Congrats!

Submitted by Jilsyt on Mon, 03/20/2006 - 1:07pm.

We will be celebrating five years...not many, but enough to have proved a few folks wrong...I was only 19 (now 24) and he was 22 (now 27). My parents wanted it to end, saying I'd throw away my chances at a good education. However, I finished school (a B.S. in human resource management), and have two beautiful children (1 boy, 1 girl). I love staying home, but have my college diploma over my fireplace as a reminder that I did it despite the doubts of others.

It's so awesome to see others make it so long!! Congrats to you and every one here who posted--marriage is made so trivial lately, but it can be such bliss!! May God bless your marriage to last into the eternities.

Kerri's picture

you wanna talk about proving folks wrong!

Submitted by Kerri on Mon, 03/20/2006 - 2:20pm.

try being a British white female planning to leave the UK at the age of 21 to live on the opposite side of the world in a country I'd never visited with a person of a different race (Chinese) and whom I hadn't then married. Laughing out loud

they'd be more shocked at us splitting up now than they would have been then at us staying together, and that's saying something!! Even apparently open-minded people have trouble coping with things which are outside the scope of their experience.

Congrats to all of us who have survived against the odds!

Kerri.

Becky's picture

oh yes

Submitted by Becky on Mon, 03/20/2006 - 5:02pm.

My FIL, MIL, and DH's aunt all tried SO hard to talk him out of marrying me because I was a bad influence. Ah well, I guess I'm still influencing him five years on!

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