Mother in Law

Always thinking of you and your family, Jana. Hope everyone gets better soon!

Wow,what a lot on your family's shoulders. Thinking good thoughts......

Thoughts and prayers with you Jana. That is a lot to handle.

Lots of love and best wishes to all of you, Jana.

Honey xx

sounds like they're going to need your strength. I expect you're right about your MIL's mental state affecting her recovery. It must be hard on DH with both parents having problems at the same time - does he have many siblings?? Are they close??

hang in there sweetie

Kerri.

DH is the baby of five BOYS! He is the baby by 10 years so he has no one close to his age. His parents are closer to my grand parents age than my parents. He has never had to really deal with their "aging" until now. Then it has been BAM! We are all local and I would say fairly close.

DH has not had to bury anyone close to him but his grandmother who was 103! That was 3 years ago. So he is not used to dealing with quality of life/decline is body and stuff like that so up close and personal. This will be hard on him for those reasons.

He is holding up as well as can be expected and is waiting to see what the dr says tomorrow.

Jana

I'm glad he's holding up okay.

my dad and my FIL are exactly 20yrs apart, and DH is also the baby - 10yrs younger than the eldest. Fortunately he has been close to his sister, who of course was living with us the last 10yrs. UNfortunately we're not physically close at the moment. Somehow we didn't do this a few years ago but waited until we'd all moved away, leaving only the brother who is none-too-sharp and not the best person to deal with complicated medical matters.

so I can definitely feel for you Jana - this is the time you really notice that your husband is the baby of his family too, and you feel like you're almost having to parent him. I think DH is taking it harder because I'm not right there to support him either.

prayers for all aging parents and anyone else who's having a tough time now...

Kerri.

Sorry for your DH and sorry you all have been hit so hard lately. Thinking of you.

It is stage 4 lung cancer. DH said they couldn't even do the biopsy due to some bleeding.

Not good, folks.

Jana

it's hard to need an operation, but it's worse when you can't even have one... I can't even find the words at the moment Jana because I'm overwhelmed by how lucky we've been with my FIL by comparison.

hopefully the doctors can find some way to make her more comfortable. DH must be a wreck.

(((hugs)))

Kerri.

and with your family, Jana. I'm so sorry.

Blessings,
Lenora

Well, we are letting all this sink in around here. I have had a migraine for 2 days and am finally out of bed at 7pm. These things are getting worse and worse as I get older. YUCK!

DH is pretty low at the moment and just sitting in front of the TV. He has kept the boys quiet today so I could get some sleep. He and his brothers are all meeting up tomorrow to make arrangements among themselves on how they will best assist their parents in the next several weeks. FIL will be in surgery for about 8 hrs on Monday and then in the hospital for a week. Once he is home he will be down for about 2 weeks if all goes well. MIL will start chemo on Monday. So, they are trying to get everyone's schedules down. Life as we know it will be very different. The oldest brother is causing/having some major problems since Christmas and that has put a huge stress on everyone as well, especially the parents.

But as I said this is how things go....MIL is facing the end and my sister called yesterday and she is pregnant! It was something really nice to hear at such a down time. The thought of new life was such a warm feeling. I am glad DH and I will have this to look forward to.

Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers. You have no idea what it means to me to be able to come here and be so comforted!

Jana

that is such cheerful news to hear Jana. Cling to that happiness to help you all cope with the harder parts. And find a time - maybe not next week but the week after - to get yourself to the dctor about the migraines. I don't care how bad they are you've said they're getting worse. If not for you, then think of it as being for DH and your in-laws so that you are able to help them instead of being stuck in bed all day unable to move. There has to be some treatment you haven't tried - make an appointment first thing tomorrow (or right now if they do online appointments!).

I'm really not the poster girl for this, but you need to really try hard to remember to take good care of yourself. Balanced meals (at least one a day!), vitamins perhaps because your immune system gets hit badly by stress and you don't have time for flu as well! And little treats, even if it's one Dr Pepper a day, just so you're taking care of your own welfare too. It won't help anyone if you're sick remember.

I need to work harder on thi too, because my will to cook and eat goes very fast and I end up gorging on junk - not even donuts but bags of sweets and crisps. It doesn't help.

Kerri.

Jana -
I am so sorry to hear that. Thoughts and prayers will be with you for the next period ahead.
Andrea

Jana,
I'm not too good at saying just the right thing when I hear of someone going through a rough spell. I want you to know that I am sincerely thinking about you and your family and i hope things improve. I know of several people going thru cancer treatments right now. There is a special prayer for cancer on my church's website that I read and I pray hard for those people. I will be including your MIL. Please take care of yourself. As Kerri said, you will need to be strong for others to lean on. And when you need to lean, we are all here for you.

Oh Jana!

Peace and strength to you and your family!

Kelly

I'm sorry I didn't see this sooner. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.