RIP Laurel Ruth Morris Gross

Submitted by Becky on Sun, 02/12/2006 - 8:53am

Six months ago today, we learned that our daughter had died at about six months' gestation. Three days later she was born. The ultrasound tech had pronounced her "perfect," the month before, and she was. Perfect and beautiful. Her ashes are still at our house. We have tried to find out if FIL wants them buried in their local cemetery, but he is noncommittal; but we are still concerned that if we bury them in my family's cemetery instead, he will be hurt.

We still have a video of one of the ultrasounds, which were the only times we saw her alive. Probably tonight I will watch the video.

Pregnancy

(((Becky)))

Submitted by Honey on Sun, 02/12/2006 - 9:59am.

I'll be thinking of you today.

Love,
Honey

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Thinking of you

Submitted by lgunnoe on Sun, 02/12/2006 - 10:47am.

...today and often since you lost your precious girl. Love and peace to you and Rob.

Blessings,
Lenora

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Thoughts go out to you

Submitted by heidic on Sun, 02/12/2006 - 10:52am.

Thoughts go out to you today....

Heidi

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I'm thinking good thoughts

Submitted by jennye on Sun, 02/12/2006 - 11:19am.

I'm thinking good thoughts for you too, Becky. I always feel guilty when I talk about Drew, since they were due just a couple days from one another.

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I've been thinking of you too

Submitted by Kerri on Sun, 02/12/2006 - 11:48am.

the last six months must have been very hard for you both at times.

Kerri.

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((Becky))

Submitted by Andrea on Sun, 02/12/2006 - 12:22pm.

Thoughts and prayers to you and your DH today Becky.

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sweetie

Submitted by Lynn on Sun, 02/12/2006 - 1:48pm.

Be good to yourself today.

Lynn Siprelle, Editor

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Healing Vibes!

Submitted by Jana on Sun, 02/12/2006 - 4:56pm.

My thoughts are with you often, Becky, on this subject. I know how hard it is to see something with life and then realize it is gone. While mine was 4 months and not 6, I still have the ultrasound of a beating little heart. It is an emotion that is very hard to feel and describe.

Be good to youself, Becky.

Jana

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Prayers are with you...

Submitted by Marlene on Sun, 02/12/2006 - 5:30pm.

Hold the memories tight.
M

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my thoughts are with you. my

Submitted by mummadee on Sun, 02/12/2006 - 7:44pm.

my thoughts are with you. my dh and i lost our first child between the 5th and 6th month.

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thank you all for the kind thoughts!

Submitted by Becky on Sun, 02/12/2006 - 8:17pm.

I appreciate it. I haven't watched the video yet but will in a few minutes.

Jenny, please don't worry about posting about Drew. It's fine, I promise! Babies aren't zero-sum.

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watched the video

Submitted by Becky on Mon, 02/13/2006 - 5:33am.

It's short, about 10 seconds. (They only popped it in the recorder at the end of the exam.)

I'm still amazed at how accurate those level 2 ultrasounds are. It looked just like her. Well, all preemies look pretty much alike, but you know what I mean-- it was clearly a fetus on the screen rather than a fuzzy blob.