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Life has me a bit down at the moment.
I am trying to put my finger on it and I keep coming up with LIFE. Just, in general. Just the way people come and go and the way people treat each other and the way I have to get up in the morning to leave my home to better my self (college) and make some money (work) to get by and the way that I never have enough time for my kids who at any moment could be taken away from this earth and the way I need to call my granny but I don't think about it until it is 10pm and she is fast asleep and the way the my friend is having to deal with cancer and a shorter life with her husband and kid and the way that I want to eat healthy but have such a dang hard time finding healthy foods that my family will eat and the way that I really want to be at home but because we made the wrong choices years ago that we are still paying for I can not.
You know, life, in general, has me down.
Jana
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((((hugs))))
Sorry your feeling this way right now, Jana. Don't know what to say, but I'm always here for you to talk/vent to.
Life is just so DAILY!
...as Mary Engelbreit says. I know what you mean, all of it. Hugs.
Lynn Siprelle, Editor
oh dear
sounds like you're going through one of those horrible times when it just seems like the world's falling apart round your ears, and you feel totally hopeless to stop it. The good news is that it will pass. The bad news is that it doesn't feel like it at the moment, and there's always a chance it'll drive you mental before you get through it!! But heck, that's life anyway, driving us all mental!
hope you get a perspective change soon - you need a break.
Kerri.
Rough patches
As Her Majesty Queen Elizabeth II would say, it's been an annus horribilus.
Jana, you've been through some really trying times of late. Be gentle with yourself.
Rose
Oh Jana
I'm sorry you're feeling so down. I understand, I really do . Life has been tough for you lately, but tough times will pass and there *will* be joy.
Gratitude journal
What a rotten time you've had lately, Jana.
Probably the last thing you feel like doing, I realise, but writing down five things a day that you feel grateful for (or one, if that's all you can think of on that particular day)can really help sometimes. It helps me look at the same old crap in a different way, sometimes
Hope you feel better soon
Hang on in there.
((((hugs))))
Honey xx
Jana
I'm sorry you’re feeling down, you've had a rough time of it lately and it's understandable that you feel that way. No words of wisdom, just like others have said, it will pass. Know that you’re in my thoughts and prayers.
I think Honey's idea is a good one, reminds me that I need to get mine out.
BTW, it's good to see you haven't lost your sense of humor, you had me ROFL this morning with your comment in flybabies
what Lynn said
Hope you feel peppier soon.
Well, the diagnosis is..........
Post Tramatic Stress.
I went to my therapist yesterday. Have not seen her in about 6 months.
I went over the latest, near drowning of DS4, and she looked at me and said "Post. Tramatic. Stress"
"Wow, isn't that what people who come back from the war have or people who are attacked have?"
"Yeah, honey, and you and your life has been "attacked" for the past 4 years."
"Well, hmmm, now that is something to think about."
So I thought, and she talked, and I thought and she talked and then the kicker, "Have you cried?" "In my life, yeah." "No, smarty pants, since this last incident?" "Um..no. not one drop. at all."
I have struggled with the no crying thing. I want to cry, I try to cry, I wish I could cry. But is just ain't coming. My body aches, everyday, and I just think it is all the backed up emotion that has no where to go that is making my body hurt. I truly feel like my body is about 80. You should see me try to get out of bed in the morning. And the amount of advil I take, thinking, oh this will make it go away.
She believes I have finally shut down from all the stress of the last 4 years. This last thing was the kicker. My friend's baby dying, my grandfather dying, my marriage problems, my closest friends (2) divorcing, and now DS4 almost drowning and a very good friend losing her battle, ever so slowly, but still losing, with cancer (haven't talked to much on this one).
So what does one do when one is told they have "shut down" and one feels like that don't know how to "open back up"?
Therapy will continue..........
Jana
Oh Jana
{{{{hugs}}}} Keep seeing your counselor. Email me, maybe we can work out a Bach Flower Remedy.
Lynn Siprelle, Editor
I hope this doesn't sound tri
I hope this doesn't sound trite because it is meant sincerely.
Sometimes it is easier to let go and cry at something silly and unconnected to your life. It is easier to cry about Bambi's mother getting shot than about your own sadness. Don't rule out crying by default if it helps and gets the endorphins flowing.
It might help and I hope you feel better in due time.
Shayne
hugs
Jana - My heart goes out to you - what your therapist said makes perfect sense. You have been "numbed" so to speak with so many traumatic events happening to you. I dthink that not crying can be a coping mechanism for some people but ends up being unhealthy in the long run. I hope you continue to see your therapist.
Andrea
I hope she helps you
and I tend to agree about crying at something silly like Bambi - it's worth a shot, because once something like that has loosened you up it might all flood out and start the healing process. Think of whatever movie ALWAYS makes you cry, and if you can't cry at it, at least you'll have something to tell your therapist!
I think perhaps also that the lack of security and support you've felt in your marriage has probably made it harder for you to cope with all the other things. If you've got someone else who can be strong for you then it's okay to let your guard down. If you feel like you can't be completely yourself, show weakness, that kind of thing, it could well make it harder for you to handle all the other shit.
Being strong isn't always about being tough.
really hope your therapist can help you find a way to find yourself again...
Kerri.
Catharsis
Like the others, I don't want to sound trite, but I have to agree that tearjerker movies are actually helpful during stressful times.
Steel Magnolias does it for me.
I'm glad you're seeing a therapist. I hope it helps.
Rose
ditto
Also my counselor said she tells people to cry in the shower because there is already running water and the power of suggestion (as well as privacy).
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