I'm scared about my DS14's anger. He gets very upset at things that seem inconsequential and becomes a stranger. He has always been quite a perfectionist and control freak (Where could he have gotten that?) but this seems to go beyond that.

Today he started yelling at me because he thought the stuffed shells for dinner were done, and I wanted to cook them longer. I suggested that he take his portion and we put the rest back in the oven, but he yelled "No!" in my face.

A bit later he was holding his 4 year old sister down even after 5 times of her asking for him to let her go. Then he twisted DS13's arm up behing his back. I pulled him off my bed by his wrist and asked him to go downstairs to cool off and he shoved me and swore and yelled at me.

When DH saw this he really flipped out and grabbed DS14 by the back of the neck and frog-marched him to his room. Then DS kicked DH and swore at us and ran away upstairs.

Is this normal? Everything I read says teens can just be angry sometimes and will take it out on family.

The pediatrician says that he is OK because he is fine 85% of the time and is very good at school has good grades, and all that. She said he is not anti-social and I should let go a bit and try harder to understand his individuation process, and just keep the good communication that we usually have going.

All I want is peace in my home. Is it too much to ask that people not yell and swear? He says he was justified in pushing me because I "pulled his arm." He would not go calm down in his room when I asked him to after hurting both his siblings. What should I have done?

I was a horrible teen. I used drugs starting at age 12, and was drinking by his age. My sister was a runaway. DH's brother is bi-polar and has been addicted since 14. Yet I know plenty of other kids his age who didn't seem to have outbursts like this. I'm scared for his future.

I don't know what to do. I want him to be happy, but we have to have standards of behavior. He can't hurt the other kids (or me) and shouldn't he go to his room to cool off if I tell him to?

Then, 45 minutes later he came upstais and asked to go online and got angry again when I told him no. I was very calm, but firm with him and he took a shower and headed to his room, meek as a lamb.

Did your teens do this?

Help!!