An Insane Mother Moment that turned out OK!!!!!!

I just had to get this out. It has been in my mind since it happened and maybe if I release it it will seem better.

DS6 has become pretty mouthy the last several months. Sometimes I feel that he is just expressing himself and seeing where the boundaries are and such so I overlook it or talk to him about it. Let him know what is expected and what is not. Well, I was thinking that this was really getting us no where (or maybe it was and I was just impatient for the long haul ) but anyway I was trying to come up with something to help him understand. Really the comments were harmless and that is why I was just trying to relax about it. It would be something like I would say something and he would say something under his breath. Kinda like...let me see if I can get away with this type of thing. Well, then Christmas comes and the selfish child came out strong. This is a child that just 2 weeks ago cleaned out his piggy bank and rounded up all the loose change in the house to take to the Salvation Army kettle at Kroger but let him go into a store and think he is not getting a toy and the whining and pounting begins. When he didn't get the exact thing he wanted for Christmas he was pouty and DH called him Eyeore....which is exactly what he was acting like....you know...poor me, my glass is always half empty thinking! Well, we were taking it in stride and trying to talk with him about things. Didn't feel like it was sinking in.

Then it happened. I had no idea that morning that the afternoon would be SO different but.............

My mother invited the boys and I to go to Hobby Lobby to get some fleece for winter hats and she said she would take them to McDonald's for breakfast. Well, of course they wanted the toy so my mother said sure and got them the Aladdin thingy that McD's was offering. Then we head to Hobby Lobby and DS6 starts in about I want something, I want something. Of course DS4 is right behind him. One whine equals TWO whines with us!!! SO I say ok....you each get $4 to spend, while I was thinking you just got several things for Christmas but I was not in the mood for meltdown at Hobby Lobby so I caved! WEAK MOMMY!!!! So we make our selections and we are doing fine. At the checkout my mother picks up something New Year's ish and DS6 sees it and says he wants it. Mom says you have to wait for Ne Year's and he spouts off something sassy to which I become a POSSESSES MOTHER!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I yank him out of the basket he was riding in the back off and walk him straight to the van. He says nothing....he KNOWS!!!! I say nothing for fear I was damage him mentally! I had had it with his disrespect and total disregard for others. Six or not this was gonna be a hard lesson on both of us. I was FURIOUS!!!!!!!! Mother and DS4 make it to the van and is was a long, quiet 20 min drive home. We get home and I send him to his room. I get a laudry basket and walk it.......I was possesed girls! I had calmed down some but was still fuming at this little person I have given birth to. He asked what the laundry basket was for and I handed it to him and said "for all your Christmas gifts. They are being put up until your attitude changes." I went on to say he would have an opportunity to get them back but for now he was doing without them." It was one of the hardest things for me as a mother to watch. He was sad and crying but I did not hear one complaint. He placed all of his things in the basket and I rounded up the rest including the McD's toy he had just gotten. I put them away and give him some time to himself then I went in and we talked. I explained that people went shopping for things they thought he would enjoy, things just for him. And for him to be so disrespectful was unacceptable. Blah Blah Blah. I did good. I was now in the totally calm stage. You know the one. Calm to the point you make other people want to scream! Well, the little munchkin has turned his attitude around. I have heard little whining except around bath time, of course! I have heard little complaining, mainly brotherly stuff. He has been a little gentlemen. Oh the power of motherhood! We can giveth and taketh away. I really didn't think I had it in me and I don't think he thought so either. We have both learned. We have had wonderful conversations about how we should treat the people we love. And he has been able to rescue 2 things from the basket. You know, he is a good kid. Wonderful at school, polite to his elders but to his brother and dad and me he was just plain grumpy. How many times I have been that way too. Like I said...we BOTH learned alot about each other and ourselves.

An insane moment in motherhood turned out pretty well!