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The debris is gone and all that remains of DH's past is a charred concrete slab. I saw it for the first time this afternoon and it was like a punch in the gut.
We don't know what we are going to do. DH has gone to hunting camp with the boys to get away from the scene and think. There will be some big changes in store for our family for sure.
The little independent school I teach at is losing its lease this June. DH's family business is gone and his parents are 63 and don't really want to re-build. Where do we go from here?
When nothing is certain, everything is possible, and therein lies the conundrum. There are so many ways to go. What will be the best for us?
Lots to think about, much to discuss.
Life is never dull, is it?
-Jo
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Sympathy
I was actually going to say something similar to what you say in one of your later comments, that everything is possible, that you might feel a certain freedom as a result of this. I do think however that it will take a while before you get to that point, time to grieve in a way. I'm glad your DH has found a way to get completely away from it for a while. That thinking time will be essential.
I can't help but appreciate your thinking though... that there's too much choice so you don't know which way to go next. Breaking down the skills available and seeing what else they migh suit is a very logical approach. Talking about everyone's dreams is another approach that can sometimes work. Go back to your childhoods and talk about what you wanted, what activities you enjoyed. See if they were things to do with people or animals or neither... Presumably DH wouldn't really appreciate being somebody else's employee after being his own boss, so that might rule things out and narrow down the field.
But give yourselves time. If financial difficulties won't allow that consider trying some form of stop gap employment, just to keep you going while you think about what your really want.
And keep running - you'll need the energy and thinking time it gives you, because it isn't going to be easy, and it would be all too tempting to just be a slug (like me) sometimes.
Kerri.
Grieving
I think Kerri's right about an inevitable grieving process.
But in a way, there *is* something exciting about future possibilites, too. It's as if your family is on the brink of a whole new adventure.
I can't help thinking about The Lost Sailor, that book I read to my girls the other night...how he was marooned and built himself a little hut and a life as best he could, and how when it all went up in smoke, he despaired that even that had been taken from him. Yet the fire proved to be a beacon that led to his rescue. It can't be denied that the Lord works in mysterious ways.
Not that that takes away the sadness of seeing that charred foundation.
(((Hugs)))
Wow
My thoughts are with you and your family Jo! Wow, you have been through a lot. We will all be interested to see what you guys end up doing!
Andrea
Courage!
I could cough up some cheery platitudes for you, but you probably don't need that sort of thing right now. So I'll just say, "Courage!" I always remind myself that courage isn't about not being afraid, it's about being afraid but doing what you need to do anyway.
I sure hope the insurance does right by you. And, again, thank Heaven no one was hurt.
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May The Hair On Your Toes Never Fall Out
--Traditional Hobbit Blessing
"struggle is nature's way of
"struggle is nature's way of strengthing"
I have no idea who said that but I heard it on a preveiw for something on TV and I stopped what I was doing to write it down.
And I have said it several times everyday and some how it gives me comfort. Hope it will you too.
Jana
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