The Value of a SAHM?

Thats is just so wrong! Sponge off. Get real.
Nothing was said I guess about his affair.
Being a SAHM is a job. Yes some SAHM are NOT good mothers and maybe they are really lazy. But this was not the case. I work harder as a mom than I ever did before I had kids and worked outside of the home.
Its a job you never really get a break from. Most days a 15 hours a day job! he had NO right to say that to her.

I can barely think how to respond to something like that. A man leaves his family, tears up his children's hearts, and then the abandoned wife gets abuse from the judge? WHAT KIND OF WORLD IS THIS? My heart breaks for this woman.

From my time spent as a corrections officer, I can indeed confirm that many, many, many family court judges are utter assholes. There's just no other way to put it.

I don't know if they get burnt out, cynical, or what. And don't get me wrong, there are some great ones out there too. But the ones that survive the daily meat grinder of family court end up being the closest things to saints on this earth OR they turn out to be cynical SOBs who take out their jadedness on the people that come before them.

And you know, it's a heck or a lot easier to be a cynic than it is to be truly compassionate.

I wouldn't say that the judge's attitude is prevalent everywhere. But in any given courtroom, the judge's mood/temper/attitude/biases are frankly all that matters. And they don't have anything to lose by saying exactly what they feel in their courtroom. Even if they are 'elected', when was the last time you really paid any attention to who was running for your local court judge/researched their records, ect? Probably the same as everyone else. (That is, if they are running opposed in the first place!)

However, it might be good for her to get a copy of the court record, and then show it to the media. (If she can get them to care). But that won't help her settlement. I'm wondering where her lawyer was/is in all this.
-Kitty, mama to Fiona, Thomas, and Dylan.

One more reason why we, as moms, must encourage our children (especially daughters) to first become self sufficient in this old world before trusting their entire future to the whims of a spouse.

Woman #2 might not be so happy to have hubby dear if wife had cause to sue her for alienation of affection.

The Judges comment might be of interest to more than just the lady's local media. I can't imagine one making such a comment in a public forum unless a woman kept having children against her husbands wishes in order to get to stay home or something of that sort. Though I'm certainly not suggesting that is the case here. Sometimes people with a little bit of power (actually Judges have a whole lot of power)get so arrogant they forget that life has a way coming back to slap us in the face when we do people wrong.

That's just profoundly... disgusting. There's no other word for it.
My one guess (because I am, by nature, the one who stands in the middle - I sometimes think I missed my career as a mediator, because I am quick ot try and see both sides) is that he's used to seeing "Society Wives", who stay at home not out of a sense of duty or motherhood, but simply because they *can* and 'don't want to work' (or has been through a nasty divorce himself).

But still... the ideal is for a judge to set ASIDE such things, and take each case *on its own merits*. I hope she *does* make a stink out of this - this judge deserves to be tarred and feathered!!!