Bad News

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Submitted by JoannaC on Mon, 02/23/2004 - 1:18pm.

Well--about 4 months ago I posted that I was pregnant, although it was very early. Two weeks ago tomorrow I went to a routine visit (16 weeks), and there was no heartbeat. An ultrasound confirmed that the baby had died sometime in the last few weeks. This is my second miscarriage, and we're pretty heartbroken this time. I had a D&C, which was fairly horrifying. Luckily, the anesthesiologist gave me a general, so I don't remember anything except the first five minutes in the OR. The nurse kept questioning me on exactly what happened, and why I was having the procedure, and saying that they don't usually do D&C's here, etc. I maintained my composure, although I wanted to throw up and/or throw a grade-school worthy punch. It was not good.

I'm almost 36 now, and we are just hoping that we will be able to have another baby. I was already showing and in maternity clothes (big time), and had told just about everyone, including DS3.

At the same time, we are so thankful to have our beautiful DS3. I'm trying to keep positive and keep things in perspective. Thanks for listening...

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Susannah's picture

My heart goes out to you

Submitted by Susannah on Mon, 02/23/2004 - 1:26pm.

I know how awful it feels. I am so very sorry, Joanna. ((((Hugs)))) to you and your family.

silverbear's picture

so sorry

Submitted by silverbear on Mon, 02/23/2004 - 2:12pm.

I can't imagine what this is like for you. My deepest sympathy goes to you and your family.
I'd also like to apologize to you on behalf of my pre-SAHM profession, nursing. The actions of the pre-op nurse are simply inexcusable, and they are grounds for a formal complaint if you wish to do so.
{hugs}
Rose

Hope's picture

I'm so sorry

Submitted by Hope on Mon, 02/23/2004 - 2:27pm.

Big (((((HUGS))))) from me as well Joanna.

Lynn's picture

Joanna

Submitted by Lynn on Mon, 02/23/2004 - 2:31pm.

I had two miscarriages before I had Josie. It sucks. {{{{big hugs}}}}

Lynn Siprelle, Editor

Becky's picture

very sorry

Submitted by Becky on Mon, 02/23/2004 - 3:49pm.

I am sorry Joanna.

angelb's picture

so sorry

Submitted by angelb on Mon, 02/23/2004 - 7:26pm.

I'm so sorry, Joanna. You and your family will be in my thoughts.

Anhata's picture

Condolences

Submitted by Anhata on Mon, 02/23/2004 - 10:57pm.

I'm sorry to hear about your loss. I hope you can find comfort and peace, and eventually have the child you want so much.

Here are some websites that may help you find support and more information:

Miscarriage@About.com

QuietRefuge.com

Miscarriage Information

Many Blessings.

Honey's picture

((((Joanna))))

Submitted by Honey on Tue, 02/24/2004 - 7:16am.

I'm so sorry to hear your sad news, Joanna.

love
Honey xx

jamielea's picture

So Sorry

Submitted by jamielea on Tue, 02/24/2004 - 10:51am.

I am so sorry, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

lgunnoe's picture

Joanna

Submitted by lgunnoe on Tue, 02/24/2004 - 12:20pm.

My prayers are with you, too. I am so sorry for the loss of your precious one.

Blessings,
Lenora

Kerri's picture

Hugs

Submitted by Kerri on Tue, 02/24/2004 - 5:50pm.

Thinking of you Joanna... hope you find comfort in those you love.

Kerri.

JoannaC's picture

Thanks!

Submitted by JoannaC on Wed, 02/25/2004 - 8:33am.

Thank you all for listening. I'm feeling OK and keeping busy--this house has never been cleaner Smiling

Joanna

Jennmommy5's picture

warm fuzzy from me to you

Submitted by Jennmommy5 on Wed, 02/25/2004 - 3:55pm.

My thoughts are with you.Sending much love and hugs.

Megg's picture

I'm so sorry. I've been ther

Submitted by Megg on Mon, 03/01/2004 - 2:43pm.

I'm so sorry. I've been there, almost the exact same sequence of events. If you ever need to talk...

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Update

Submitted by JoannaC on Tue, 03/02/2004 - 2:36pm.

We got the pathology report from the D&C yesterday, and got an answer--the baby was triploid. From conception, it had 3 chromosomes instead of the normal 2. It may sound weird, but this was a huge relief to me. There was nothing at all I could have done to change the outcome, and these babies never survive for more than a few days, on the rare occurence that they reach full term. I feel like we can start over now, and I hope I can conceive again.

Thanks for the good wishes, and for listening.

Joanna

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Closure

Submitted by Jennmommy5 on Tue, 03/02/2004 - 3:22pm.

I am glad that you got the anwers that could help you find closure to this sad stepping stone in life.My best wishes for your future and I must say your an incredibly strong woman keeping your head up this way in such a trying time.I just know in my heart the sun will shine bright in your future.

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