The way my hubby and I set it up...is this...I do the bills and handle finances...and I constantly let him know where the money is going ....any "major" or "big" purchase is usually discussed and agreed upon prior to purchase...smaller purchases are usually on a trust sort of basis...
He realizes (today anyway) that me being at home has saved our financial future...it furthered his career, which was a good thing because it enabled us to be in a better income bracket, that my budgeting has saved us thousands of dollars, at the grocery store, clothing..(I love Goodwill), my sewing the kids clothes when they were small also supplemented savings.
and for me it is not only the monetary value of being a home-maker...it has allowed me to develop and "make a home" in a spiritual sense....So getting paid for being a homemaker, wouldnt be a bad thing...but I think I got paid the past 23 years in payments that are priceless....
... Mommy I wuv you
... Sister is a poo poo head (funny little sweet comments)
... Wow ...he is walking, come on you can do it! (first steps)
... Fix my boo boo mommy you are the bestest boo boo fixer
... Oh honey its a girl
... Oh it's a boy honey
... Is grandma in heaven with freddie (the hamster)
... Oh you didn't put duckie in the toliet did you?
... Play house with us mommy
... Cheerios in the van
... acorns in my purse
... and memories in my heart....