Personally, I find myself RESISTING routines that I find in a book, or I make up on a chart. But, I started taking note of our family's "rhythm", if you will, and scheduled things around it. For example, I know my daughter will nap at 1:30 PM, and can require my son(4) to take his quiet time then, therefore I can do things in the kitchen (like pre-prep dinner, wash lunch and breakfast dishes, check my email, pay bills, whatever--read). We try to be outside or at the library for the first half of the day (I find the house stays cleaner if we aren't in it), and as for laundry...well, that seems like an endless task. Right now, there are two folded loads sitting in baskets, and one sitting in the dryer. However, the cloth diapers are always washed dried and put away promptly, because I learned the hard way that having to search for a diaper when you are in desperate need of one due to a baby "mess" is not worth the procrastination of putting them away. Plus, they go on a shelf right by the dryer, it'd be silly to take them to the other room to fold them, then bring them back!

Sorry if this doesn't help you any, Lynn, I know it frustrates my most organized, checks his planner 20 times a day husband, but I get what I need to done, and my kids seem to like the flow of things. I know I'll need to structure a bit more when DS starts more in-depth homeschooling, but for now, it's working, and it's us.