I too thought I'd probably go back to work once the kids were both in school. I didn't. I've gone back now because we started our own business, but our eldest is due to start high school this September and I really want to be in a position to be at home more by then, because I know she'll need me. I too like being the house where all the kids come to, as frustrating as that gets.

so amen to all of the above. These women talk a lot of good sense, and it's nice to see everyone, even here where everyone is in support of SAH parenting, coming out so strongly in support of parenting teens full-time. They really do need us more - in a totally different way than when they were toddlers or babies but no less valid. They need to know you care, that you're always there if they want to talk to you, that their welfare is one of your highest priorities (not "sorry, hang on while I take this call" as I've been doing tonight!).

as for worthy?? Good grief! Even if you had no kids, why shouldn't you stay home if you want to and can afford to. Your home and your husband need attention to. I not having time to get to all the little admin duties that any family creates. I don't have time to figure out a nice little holiday for Easter so we won't get one. I don't have much time to plan out the strategy for selling our current house and finding the next one (I'll have to find it somehow). ome life is so much more than children, whatever their age. You don't have to be 'worthy'! Sounds like somebody's been doing a number on you if you're worried about being worthy. If you want it and can afford it, and your husband is happy with it too then go for it, and thumb your nose at the critics, whoever they might be.

Kerri.