There will be those who comment about you, but I think everyone has something they do that bothers other people. You have to trust your feelings, your motherly instinct, and your gut for your family's sake. One thing I've always believed is that when the powers that be give us a responsibility (like motherhood), they will also urge us in the right direction. Just this morning, I was talking to a friend whose sister is a youth minister, and she said the largest problem among the teens they work with is that they sneak home to "available" houses and fool around with each other--resulting too often in teen pregnancy. I used to think I'd run back to work once my children were old enough, but as I get to know the teens in my neighborhood, I want to be one of those moms who is THERE. That's me though, like I said prior, trust yourself.