I feel lucky when I think of my DH. He's very busy with school (he's working on his PhD) and yet still makes it possible for me to stay home with our children. We get to have him home most evenings, and he's more than willing to pitch in and do the dinner dishes--of course I'll only let him if I've done my fair share that day. If I spent it on the phone with friends and lolly-gagged, and I knew he was at work, I tend to cut him evening slack. He loves playing with the children, and although he tends to get irritated quickly when they are tuning him out as toddlers will do, he's great about apologizing to them for his temper, and apologizing to me for "ruining the great feeling I had going that day". Usually, he's not as bad as he thinks he is, but I do let him apologize, as it keeps both of us wanting to improve ourselves. It's still obvious that he was one of those geeky guys from high school I'd never date (don't ask how I decided to date him anyway!!), but I've decided that I love that part too. We've only been married 6 years, and I really think they've been good. Learning experiences, but good. So, I'll give him 50%, since the work he does for the children is phenominal...geez, I sound like I'm gushing. I suppose I am.