Oh yes a start chart sounds grand. Sit down with the whole family tell them " I havn't felt good for a while and I really need help". Make yourself accountable to your family. Tell them what your goals are: Shower eating, clothes, walking (and I'll add one) a regular bedtime. A star each day for doing these things. When you have gotten 5 stars consecutively or sporatically, whichever, you have earned a foot rub, a dinner out, some new body lotion. Ya know whatever floats your boat. Your children see this, they know and I'd imagine they have a measure of helplessness. This can be a project for them, getting Mommy 5 stars. They'd feel like they were helping. And you won't feel so alone. Think about it.

I'm sending some mojo and peaceful vibes your way.