It's hard when your parents and others in your family feel so free to critique your parenting. But you'll be the one to reap the benefits of a good relationship with your child, so stick to your guns!

BTW, my experience with my oldest was that by age 3 or so she seemed inclined toward much more independent play. I like to think that by spending a lot of time close to her in infancy I enabled her to become increasingly independent. By the time we did preschool and Kindergarten she was out the door with a wave and a smile, and nary a tear!

Even my second child, just now 3, though she is clingier and more people-oriented by nature, toddles off to a friend's house or a sitter with ease. Maybe it's just how my kids are, but I like to think that giving them a firm foundation of attachment helps them to become more and more independent as they grow.

On a practical level -- I think I used the highchair a fair amount at that age to get stuff done! Some books, some cheerios, whatever. You can get a lot done in 15 minutes.

Shaun
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