you're just trying to make sure that the timing is right so that the dream doesn't turn into a nightmare, which is could so easily do if you rush it. I've said it before but I'm good at repeating myself till I'm blue in the face - if the change is right for you all (and it must be right for ALL of you) then it will be there if you give it a few months or a year. It can only be improved by letting the idea mature a bit. Something like this should never be rushed or it could all blow up in your faces, and as Samantha mentions above, you could end up with a money pit instead of a dream.

Dreams are only the very start of the journey, the trigger... after that you should both be putting in solid work to make sure it all goes as well as you could possibly want. That doesn't take away from the dream - spending time on perfecting the dream before you rush at it will make it even better.

Hopefully you can find a phrase or two in there which will make DH feel better about waiting! I know men aren't good at waiting. Once the decision is made they'll rush at hings like a bull in a china shop, and inevitably they'll be surprised when it doesn't all work out perfectly. Keep the dream alive but put it into a slower gear so you make it to the finish line all in one piece.

Kerri.