Unless you can nail your sister down to what specifically she's talking about, I don't know that there's much you can do. It sounds like she's having a hard time articulating to you what she's trying to say, either because she doesn't know herself or because she's trying to be delicate on the issue.

With no disrespect towards your sister, unless she believes for some strange reason that you don't possess some of the skills necessary to parent well (self confidence/esteem, coping skills, familiar with developmental needs of children, household management, the rest of the stuff on that bulleted list at the Family Support Center website) I can only think that these are concerns she has of her own probable parenting skills and is projecting them on to you?

That's all I've got. Hope things get less weird very soon!

Anhata
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