Let my mother have her issues.

We've all got issues, and sometimes other people's issues grate on us, rub the wrong way, push our buttons, throw our own issues into high relief (that one sucks rocks) or we otherwise take them personally. Especially if they're very close to us, like mothers, fathers, siblings, etc.

I'm trying to learn let people, like my mother, have their issues, not take it personally, or try to argue or otherwise move them into thinking more like I do, which is, of course, the right way.

I haven't gotten real far with it, but I'm better than I used to be. I too love my mother all to pieces, she's a wonderful woman, and we ususally see eye to eye on just about everything. It's in other ways that my fur gets rubbed wrong, but I keep telling myself that that's my problem, not hers.

This probably doesn't help you at all, but that's about all I have to offer. Sounds like some of the tension comes from different value systems, like money trumps relationships or something. That's helpful to know if that's happening, sometimes.

Anhata
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