What worked for DD was after she weaned from the bottle to only use during naptime to calm her down, then eventually she didn't ask for it anymore. Can't say that that would work for any other child though, especially because for her it wasn't a true "security" thing, just moderately soothing.

Do you think he's attached to the binky because of the security/coping alone, or is there an element of oral craving/stimulation going on? Lots of people have low to mid level oral stimulation issues that go "unnoticed" because they use gum, toothpicks, chewing ice, even overeating or smoking to satisfy their need for more sensory stimulation in the mouth.

That's probably not what you're dealing with though. Never mind!

That photo is priceless. Man.

Anhata
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