Once I've followed through with a consequences type threat, DD learns very quickly. The no-knitting-circle-next-week-if-you-throw-a-tantrum-when-it's-time-to-leave-Lynn's-house seems to have worked. DD claimed this evening that she'll never ever have any more tantrums because she doesn't want to miss knitting circle again. (That lasted for about five minutes.) She doesn't get yet that it's not every tantrum that gets her playdate cancelled, just throwing one when it's time to leave your house, which is, for her, the source of all things good and pure.

I don't like to parent that way, it seemes draconian/Anhata-the-Hun/not-very-enlightened. But when I get desperate I retreat back to the "if you don't..."s. Me telling her once, several weeks ago, that if she didn't pick up her playroom that I would pick it up and it would all go in a box and be put away was enough to inspire her, because she beleived me.

Anyway, enough about me.

Anhata
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