would it help to get them some info on feline leukemia and why Vanilla had to be put down? This sounded very sudden, that's probably part of it. When my kitty was sick, she had cancer and her organs were shutting down. We knew we had to put her down but waited a couple of days so that we could prepare ourselves to say goodbye to her. It may be that it was so sudden they didn't feel like they got the chance to say goodbye?

My apologies if this is presumptious to assume. I really am sorry for your loss. Beloved kitties and doggies are so much more than pets, they are family members and we love them sometimes more sweetly than fellow humans, because they're so innocent and unconditional themselves.

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