I was also quite disappointed to read Mrs. Kay's response to this question.
Mrs. Kay was somewhat of a celebrity around these parts a few years ago. Her husband was stationed at Ft. Drum (where we have been for many years) when her first book, Shop, Save and Share was published. The impression that I garnered from this book was that she was a very strong advocate of being a SAHM and employing good budgeting/saving techniques to facilitate that goal.
And once again, Susannah, here is a cyberspace kick in the heinie slap on the wrist reminding you that you are anything but lazy.
Rose