I really do look at homemaking as my job. I have a degree, have been in the military, and been in the work force from fast food, to my own "organizeing" business.
I am now a stay at home wife and mother. My hours are sometimes long. Sometimes not.
I devour books and websites to help me make my job easier and funner.
I want to make my home a refuge for my husband, kids, friends and me! Cleaning is a small part of that. Cooking is small, but essential part. Being available, and not frazzeled is a big part.
As to taking care of my hubby...he is an adult. He can do alot of things..and he does help me a ton. But I enjoy, having the clothes done for him, and makeing him dinners. He plays with the kids, and they jump all over and wrestle with him...hearing that laughter, makes my "job" a success! We discuss the world affairs, his goals at his work, and the trial and tribulations of our kids.
I would stay home with or without children. I love what I do, and although I don't get a monetary reward, I know that I don't have the stress and drama involved with working outside the home. I have a great circuit of friends, hobbies and volunteer, I love my life, and am very fullfilled