did the doctors explain why your FIL isn't considered a viable candidate?? Is it anything he can hope to remedy??

I hope your DH and FIL, and the girls too, have a particularly meaningful visit. It's a lesson to all of us not to let things drag... as you say, 'after' is pointless.

Which reminds me... I got this Irish proverb in one of my many newsletters yesterday (they were all bloody Irish yesterday!):

Tis better to buy a small bouquet
And give to your friend this very day,
Than a bushel of roses white and red
To lay on his coffin after he's dead.

how's about we all try to mend a bridge today... as well as thinking of Lenora and her family.

Kerri.