In Australia, the organ transplant/donation issue is just so neglected. We also have licences that state whether or not a person wishes to donate, but should the worst happen all it takes is for the NOK to refuse the donation and all the plans have fallen apart. it really took until a very very high profile celebrity died here that people really started to think about organ donation and make their wishes clear to their loved ones as well as on their licences.
Lenora, as an ICU nurse myself i know how difficult this time will be for both you and your family. My thoughts are with you at this time.