...to steal a phrase from the camping/eco-living folks.

Close off any rooms you can...live in as few outfits of clothing as you can (and color coordinate those so they can all go in one or two loads of laundry)...cook with as few pots and pans as you can...eat on as few dishes as you can, etc.

Box up/throw out/give away anything that just "takes up space" and collects dust! Minimize the amount of toys available to your daughter (rotating is great with little ones, anyways...keeps things exciting!)

Plan your "time-and-energy savers" with as much attention as the most important "todo" you've got. Be completely aware of your body's signals and respond to them as a highest priority!

If you are concerned about what other's might think of your houskeeping...let everyone know that you just CAN NOT have unexpected guests because of your illness. If they show up anyways, just stop them at the door with a sweet "I'm just not up for company today...you know how it is...but thanks for stopping by!" and shut the door!

I'm very big on lowering expectations,too! Kerri is right on when she says to "let it go." She's also right about asking for help. DO NOT play supermom, nor be the silent suffereing type. Neither will benefit you or your family in the long run.

Kerri is close: Lynn and I (and a couple of others, I think) have fibromyalgia. Happily, mine has been manageable for the past several years with OTC pain medication and valerian root for the sleep issues. Stress is a big trigger (as I know it can be for several Lupus symptoms, too) so time management and planning are vital. My girls are old enought to be tons of help...which is great.

I could tell you a thousand "little" things...if you have any particular area(s) that is/are challenging, ask specifics and we'll go on!!!

Do come back here, though. TNH is a great place to find help, support, information, positive energy, (or, conversely, to blow off some steam when needed). We're glad to have you here!

Blessings,
Lenora
Love nurtures, develops, cares for,
Shelters, comforts, and makes a home for us.
~Laozi