I posted my one thought on flybabies -- try to give him ideas for physically working off anger. I was a troubled teen myself -- although it came in part from being in an abusive household -- and I had lots of anger issues. Being female and terrified of my abuser, I turned it mostly inward -- cutting myself, hitting myself, etc.

So maybe it's a good thing that your DS feels safe enough to express his anger to you. He just needs to find a different way to do it that doesn't hurt anyone.

But still for me anger is sometimes physically overwhelming. It wasn't until after DD5 was born and I started good therapy, meditation, and medication that I stopped hitting myself on occasion. It's like there's this incredible pressure that you can actually feel under your skin and you've *got* to do something to release it. Regular exercise is good, but you've got to come up with some way to release that energy in the moment. Maybe your pediatrician has ideas appropriate for teens.

Now that I am finally doing a regular prayer time, I will be sure to pray for you as you deal with this. I am really pulling for your family, as I know we'll be dealing with similar issues in about 8 years!

Shaun
"If you jump off the boat, you only rock it once"