this long hair business, if you were in the pacific particularly the cook island boys do not cut there hair till manhood so you can imagine how long there could reach. And these men are no less blokey than avg joe down the pub to hint at your son will turn gay if he has long hair is absurd, tell that to a culture who not only encourages this you will soon see how not pansy these boys are. Once again it comes back to conditioning our children to what is socially acceptable not giving two hoots to the respect of other persons values in their family circle and it is not about old parenting versus new parenting skills. I think the way you raise your sons is fantastic. Fantastic because you choose to raise not only boys but boys that are descent, caring and nuturing human beings. My son is 7 1/2 I breast fed him til he was almost 3y.o society did not look upon that as being "socially acceptable" getting back to the point, my son used to pretend play that he was breastfeeding his action man dolls I wouldn't say my son was a pansy because of it. He is a boy boy if that's how you want to label a boy. he was exposed and encouraged not only to play tonka but play house to the point one of his favourite games was "make lots of bubbles while cleaning the toilet and the bath tub" i personally don't see anything wrong with training our sons to do housework if it is good enough for the mums to clean loos i think it is good enough for the dads and our sons to do so also. And if they choose not to cut their hair let them grow it long, there is no law that men were to cut their hair when it got a certain length.