Hi Honey ~

I am so sorry for your (and your family's) loss.
I don't know the poem of which you speak ~
but I am including my favorite poem regarding the death of a loved one.

Immortality

"Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there. I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight and ripened grain.
I am the gentle Autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush,
I am the swift uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circling flight ~
I am the soft star shine at night.

Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there ~ I did not die."

Mary E. Frye

Hope it helps.
Again: I am sorry for your loss.
*Hugs*
Cari