Did I understand this right?? Tash and Rose are on the same base?? Maybe Tash could visit Rose, maybe help out there occasionally. I'm sure Rose would like an extra pair of hands once in a while. It's worth a try I would think!

Tash, it really sounds as though you don't want to be a SAH, at least not right now. Maybe it's been too many things for you to adapt to at once, and clearly having a job would be one way for you to reclaim part of your identity while you adjust. Finding a job is the hard part, but there's no rush, so your 'job' for now is to find a job! To put yourself out there and see what's available. I know you said your DH likes to have you at home, but I'm sure he doesn't want you to be miserable. I would imagine you're still pretty young, so being suddenly dragged to the 'cold' north away from friends and family, and not having any friends nearby or any jobs to do must be seriously driving you nuts. Fair enough.

Anything else is just keeping you a bit occupied while your ultimate goal is basically to find a job. The advantage for you is that the money obviously isn't a huge issue, or your DH wouldn't want you to be home. So you can wait until the right job comes along, or you can give your time to volunteer work, or you can grab the first thing you find and dump it when you find something better. If money isn't a big issue you gain a lot of flexibility.

It's okay to be bored with staying home. It doesn't make you a bad person! It will help if you're honest with yourself and with your husband about how you feel. Not everyone enjoys nestbuilding.

One more thing about the genealogy... if you have any idea about the places your family members came from, it can be helpful to see if that town has a website, because that can be a source of information. One place I used to live has a website with a huge page of people asking genealogical questions from all over the world.

and if you're already spending a lot of time on computers, don't forget that there are ways to learn almost anything online. Suite 101 has all sorts of information, and there are 'universities' with lots of free courses in the strangest of things. All you need is an internet connection and a search engine and you can fill hours and hours! Jenny's absolutely right about not having any free time once you have kids, so make the most of the next few years, don't wait any experience, because once you have kids it will be another twenty years before you get another chance. Even when you're not actually DOING something with the kids, they're invariably underfoot, and it's very hard to do a lot of things with small kids around. I had my kids fairly young so I didn't have the awkward transition phase that you're experiencing at the moment, but then again, I'm now struggling with figuring out who I am in addition to being a daughter, wife and mother - I didn't really have time between to just be me!

Life's just full of obstacles and you just have to find the best way to get past them. Every time you pass an obstacle you've learned somhing, even if it isn't immediately obvious. Rose said much the same about learning things during her early years as a military wife. All the things you learn now will go to make the person you become as you get older.

I'm guessing that you're not an only child... Only children don't tend to get bored because they're used to having to amuse themselves from very young. I've noticed that those who grew up with siblings don't enjoy their own company so much.

Enough babbling...

Kerri.