That's just profoundly... disgusting. There's no other word for it.
My one guess (because I am, by nature, the one who stands in the middle - I sometimes think I missed my career as a mediator, because I am quick ot try and see both sides) is that he's used to seeing "Society Wives", who stay at home not out of a sense of duty or motherhood, but simply because they *can* and 'don't want to work' (or has been through a nasty divorce himself).

But still... the ideal is for a judge to set ASIDE such things, and take each case *on its own merits*. I hope she *does* make a stink out of this - this judge deserves to be tarred and feathered!!!