Susannah,

The right meds can work wonders when you get that feeling that "the world would be better if I wasn't here anymore". I have been through depression, and I will always be SO grateful that a friend recognized the symptoms, and sent me to see someone. My DH did not recognize my depression for what it was, and neither did I. Both of us looked at my feelings as a character flaw. Once I got the right meds, the "I'd rather be dead" feelings (which are so typical of depression) disappeared. I'm just so thankful that these drugs exist.

Hang in there It sounds like you guys are on the right track in getting help. Your DH is fortunate that you understand that this is a medical issue. It might take a few tries to find the right med and dose for your DH. I'll be thinking of you all.