I used to battle depression (suicidal even) and drive my hubby worried crazy. What has stopped that for me something I read once that said “only you can make yourself happy” I took that and other advice from somewhere and wrote it on my bathroom mirror. It worked within a day. BUT only because I was ready and willing to admit it was ultimately up to me! No one could have told me this, it was something I discovered myself.

It did however upset my hubby at first, he felt left out, powerless.... so wanted and so tried to be my knight in shining armor. BUT I told him that he is still a contributor to my happiness, but ultimately it is up to ME to let whatever he is doing make me happy.

In other words, if I was depressed no amount of loving, flowers, sweet treatment pulled me out of it... UNTIL I was ready to come out! Once I learned this, I don’t even have to write it on the mirror anymore, I just have to tell myself and my depression is gone as quick as it came, (sometimes I have to do this a few times a week, but at least I didn’t spend the whole week depressed) by my own sheer will to let it go, be stronger then it, recognizing my role in this depression. Even if it is caused by chemicals from having bipolar, I can still pull through so much easier, and quicker then ever before in my life.

I have been doing this for almost 2 years and it really has helped. I am doing other stuff too, a book I read about reprogramming your subconscious (which has much programming done during childhood)..... the subconscious is very powerful and will override the logical thinking when triggered, the thing is to undo reprogram those triggers... this is done while in alpha state, I could say more but don’t want to write too much, let me know if you want to know how to do this,

oh and btw I tried some anti depression meds and I like the reprogramming wayyyy better, I find I get less of those chemical releases then in past years (you know that fight or flight, almost fell down chemical release)

good luck and give him time to learn that it is ultimately up to him

when handed a basket of lemons make lemonade