Don't feel badly that you didn't immediately feel a connection Danna. I felt it immediately with my firstborn, but somehow it didn't work the same with DS, and it took us about a month before he really began to grow on me, and anyone would tell you now that he's my favourite! :oops: Not intentionally of course, but it happens. Of course it doesn't help you feel right about your decision if you don't *KNOW*, but just don't let that get to you too much. You've got enough going on already!

at least with childbirth you get a choice of painkillers!!!

Kerri.