Actually, my mom and my dad (and both step parents) are recovering alcoholic/addicts. I've been attending AA meeting with my mom since I was 8. I've also tried a variety of al anon, and al a teen meeting over my life, and I've found that they're full of whiners and blamers. I once found a really good alanon meeting, but I was visiting my dad in san francisco, so I had to leave it when I went back to Oregon. As for enabling Frank, I know that we should, but in this case it's up to Kenny. It's his brother. As for feeling sorry for him - I used to, until he threatened to kill Muna (he was cranking out), or when he told his 9 year old daughter that if she were old enough he'd 'give' her to a friend of his. Or when he tried to get his 9 and 14 year old boys to join his skinhead friends. (FYI - his kids are half arabic - something Frank 'conveniently' forgets). He's also offered his 14 year old whiskey, and prostitutes (which he turned down). I feel sorry for his poor kids, and his ex wife. He's brough everything down on himself.