But my mother just went through this in recent years with her mother, who just passed away this March. She felt guilt all the time, especially when she eventually was forced to put my grandmother into a nursing home. My mom had to have both knees replaced, could not lift her, is single, had to work, could not be home with her anymore, etc. I kept telling her, "Mom! You are doing your utmost for her! You have NO reason to feel guilty!" She kept up with the nursing staff, the hospice person (who was excellent, by the way; my grandmother loved her), and made sure everything was right for my grandmother. She was wonderful to her! But she still felt a great deal of guilt. I think that just comes with the territory.

One source of support for caregivers is the following website:

http://familycaregiving101.org/

We envision being in this position ourselves someday, so it's good to know what's out there.