Sweetpiv, it always helps just knowing someone else knows the feeling. I well remember what it was like caregiving for my inlaws beginning when my kids were only 2 and 4. It takes a major juggling act to keep up with the needs of our elderly and do what is right by our children also. It's a little easier on me this time around since my Dad is in his own home still.

Are you not able to get sitters through hospice to come at least for a portion of the day to sit with your MIL? I'm not sure exactly how the hospice program works or if each state is different or not. Sounds like you've certainly got your hands full at the moment.