Wow, sounds like you all have a lot on your plate! I'm not personally in your position, but I used to be a CNA for elderly people, and before that I cleaned for the elderly and disabled. Have you considered hiring a CNA to come in every now and then? I don't know what you're money situation is like, but a cheaper alternative is that you could call up to the high school. Talk to a guidance counselor and ask for a responsible teenager, who'd like to make a little extra money. Have him/her come over just once and help. Watch and see how they do, and make sure that your mother/father likes them. If they do well, you can arrange for them to come regularily, or just have another person to call in emergancy. If they don't work out, call the counselor again, next time, and ask for someone else. It would seem to me that you wouldn't have to pay a teenager that much to help out, and if you don't get a break you're gonna make yourself sick. Anyway, good luck.